Identification of being Emotionally Attached vs Love

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Love is one of those things that almost every person on this planet is searching for. Some may get it where most may not get it. And the most important is getting a true love or companionship has been distinct.

Some of us want it so badly that we get swept up in the initial stages of romance, blinded by feelings of lust, affection, and desire. There’s no better feeling in this world than finding a person who loves you just as much as you love them.

But, sometimes we idealise people, rather than letting them just be themselves. And this is because we’re searching for our own validation, rather than a genuine, loving bond.

Sometimes what we think is love is really just an emotional dependence that we’ve come to rely on for our own satisfaction and self-worth.

Listed below are few signs that your relationship might not be as healthy for you as you think it is:

1. A large portion of your self-worth is derived from your significant other’s approval, affection and attention.

2. You and your partner have stopped doing the things that you used to do without one another, or have completely removed yourselves from other relationships that were important to you.

3. You care less about who your partner really is on the inside than you do about how well they maintain appearances in front of friends and family.

4. You enjoy having a bit of control over your partner, and become upset and distant when they don’t do as you wish.

5. You feel extreme jealousy whenever your partner spends their time with someone other than yourself.

6. You genuinely feel as though you would never be able to recover, or move on in life, if your partner left you or passed away.

7. You have a constant worry that your partner is going to just up and leave you for someone else. You notice that you are possessive of him or her when there are other people around them.

8. You think that you can transform your significant other into the partner you’ve always wanted.

9. You value your partner’s validation way more than your own validation.

10. You’re always ready to bail on whatever plans you’ve made in order to spend time with your significant other.

11. You always give priority to them, and in return you are least bothered.

12. Always the plans are made by you and destroyed by the other.

This list could be small because this was the extract from various sources.

3 Years of Policy Making & Strategy Execution Expertise comes to an end

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It has been more than 60 days from my last post, I was thinking to write about various things, but the transition from one position to another is always the complicated one as everyone is aware of. And that too imagine an execution level people transitioning in the Governmental or Non-Governmental is really such painful and a time-consuming one. And the title of the post almost quotes the end point of my cycle at the high-level office. It doesn’t mean that I am empty headed now, instead, the platform where I was shining now changes to an another platform.

Yes, I am now successfully a free bird, without spy (hope so…) and can move independently after almost 3 years. Do never visualise about being into the Prisons which is being provided by Government; instead was serving the Government. This 3 year is the best period of my life, I could say in a nutshell. The high-level contacts which range to many Solons, Great Reseach Scientists and Professors across the world. But I have to literally admit that I lost most of my personal contacts in India.

At a point of time, I was like all alone in the Eden garden without even an eve. That gave many numbers of temporary people in my life including a life changing experiences. From being a Global President & CEO of an MNC to the Government made me work more and more beyond the expectations of everyone around me. The impact my calibrations in the office made a vibrant move around the zone and had surgical waveforms among them too, with which I am really happy.

The strong contacts in UN with ITU, WIPO, UNESCO and other InterGovernmental Organizations has also moulded me to a level in achieving the best in the rest of the days left behind. And,

And, to say about my bosses. OMG! A super cool team which expects thighs and breasts in KFC always badly than me. I have seen many numbers of posts, meme and other works against the bosses by my friends through all the mediums. But I didn’t expect that the bosses would be such cool in the reality. They gave me a superb experience throughout my days and even at some junction made me feel that they are better than my parents when they took me to the hospital, airport or while feeding me at their home. Yes, I go for different types of food like south Indian lunch and Punjabi dinner. I am trying to pull the moments when they have been hard to me, but nothing strikes now as there are nothing such.

I never did what they said, but did what they planned!

This was the reason for my success, I think. Yes, I need to regret to some in my life, that I am unable to keep up with them due to at-large commitments and focus changes which widely includes my School Mates, Class Mates, College Mates, Social Media Mates, travel mates and others. A deep apology for those who invited me for their marriages, baby naming ceremony, movies, meetings, speaking engagements and others. I will try to keep intact as much as possible, still, it needs certain inputs, not the protocol instead of the time availability.

There will be no direct posts about my availability in my Facebook or Twitter timeline as I have resolved not to post anything there from September 22, 2015, and am trying to freeze the decision. Many things have changed in the past 3 years, but they aren’t recordable here and I wish to have them private.

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Moving aside, the challenges that I faced every day was something very adventurous, unlike other jobs. The strong emotional bonding that still people have for me pulls me back to stay connected with them. On hearing my tenure ending I had people calling me and speaking for almost 4 hours each. That feeling is a bliss and you cannot even imagine about it.

I still wanted to write more, but already possessing worn keys in my keyboard of my laptop due to the last days handing over and others. Will wait for the replacement and will write more.

Thailand’s King Bhumibol Adulyadej a Wonderful Journey

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Thailand's King Bhumibol Adulyadej leaves the Siriraj Hospital for a ceremony at the Grand Palace in Bangkok Kokula Krishna Hari Kunasekaran

Some of you may have heard about the most tragic news in our lifetime for all Thai people, the death of our beloved King Bhumibol Adulyadej who passed away yesterday at the age of 89 and during the 70th year of his reign.

Then, you may notice that not only all your Thai friends have changed their FB profile pictures and covers all into black to mourn our beloved King but you may notice also through several news sources about the nation’s deepest grieve. Not a single face without tears. Not a single word well enough to express the sorrow. The whole nation has once again united as one to share a moment of the darkest hours in our history, losing the heart of the nation who we love unconditionally and wholeheartedly.

For those who are not familiar with the strong bond between Thai people and the royal family, especially King Bhumibol, you may not understand why Thais are so much in deep sorrow when the King passed away. Let me proudly and humbly share with you some of his stories I know!

Born on the 5th of December 1927 in Cambridge, MA in the US. He was named “Bhumibol” which means “The Strength of the Land” by his mother who was originally born as an ordinary people and well raised him and his brother and sister in a simple ordinary way, not in a royal luxurious way.

At the age of 2, he lost his father from a severe illness. At the age of 19, he lost his brother, King Anandamahidol from a mysterious accident. So, he had to accept the request from the government to start his service on the throne ever since. At the age of 20, he lost one eye from a car accident and he had used only one eye to work for his people throughout the long service of his monarch ever since. The long 70 years of service without a rest.

His first royal statement as a king was “I will rule the land with righteousness for all the good and well-being of all Thai people”! And he had done what he promised every single day of his life until his last breath.

Throughout 70 years of the reigning monarch, he had travelled to almost every bit of the kingdom, mostly remote areas where the names are not eventually known to us in order to visit his people and helped them getting rid of the problems they had and levelling up their quality of life. He created thousands of royal projects to create foods, jobs and wealth for his people.

His palace is the only palace in the world where there are no luxurious decorations or fancy stuff. There are only testing farms, agricultural inventions, cows, school, satellite radio station and other stuff you wouldn’t imagine other kings would have in their palaces. He had sacrificed his happiness, time, money and put all his devotion to his service for one single purpose, to create good lives for his beloved people. He had unconditional love for all the people, regardless of races and religious. His supports were equal for Buddhist, Christian, Muslim, Hindi, etc. This is why Thailand is one of the freest countries in the world, religious-wise. He was a great teacher, creator, scientist, commander, farmer, musician and above all, he was the only man in the country who could truly unite all the people as one.

He once said, “My place in this world is to be among my people”. He taught us with words and without words via his actions to love, help and give peace to each other.

For the one who could have had a happy luxurious life if he wanted to but ,instead, he had chosen a very simple life and rough road to complete his given mission. His reward and lifetime achievement were only one thing, the happiness of his people.

This is why Thai love him……..so much…… I have travelled more than 100 times to Thailand and I have witnessed their strong attachment with King & the Royal family so much.

In remembrance of His Majesty King Bhumibol Adulyadej 1927-2016

Always our beloved King!!!